Problems getting pregnant when you already have at least one child can be a shock. Last time, you decided to start your family, you got pregnant and a few months later, you were holding your beautiful baby. This time’s different. You’ve been trying and month after month, and the test is negative. This type of infertility affects almost 20 percent of couples.
The Centers for Disease Control estimates that 7.3 million women between the ages of 15 and 44 struggle to have children. And RESOLVE, the national infertility organization estimates that as many as half of the cases of infertility are secondary infertility. That’s about 3.5 million women so you are not alone. Time is of the essence, so read on for more information.
If your quest for a second pregnancy isn’t panning out, you’ll likely find yourself confronting a slew of emotional issues unique to people coping with secondary infertility. That’s because in addition to feeling disappointed and upset, you may also be feeling shock: “I got pregnant so easily the first time, there’s no way I could have infertility problems!”
When you and your spouse are struggling with secondary infertility, it can be tough to find answers to your own questions. But when your children begin asking questions you simply don’t have the answers to, things can get even more difficult. As I reached across the table to dip my chip into the salsa, my daughter’s question came from nowhere and sliced through me.
Secondary infertility occurs when you are unable to get pregnant, despite having frequent unprotected sex for at least a year, after previously having another child. Because you have had a baby, it’s probably bewildering that you’re having difficulty conceiving this time. The fact is, secondary infertility is on the rise. Here are some challenges you may need to consider.
Angie and Kelly Malchose weren’t even trying to get pregnant when they conceived their son, Jordan. So five years later, when they decided to go for baby number two, they expected instant success. But to their dismay, months passed and there was still no baby. Finally, Angie, 29, checked in with her obstetrician-gynecologist, who diagnosed secondary infertility.
The star of the hit television show “Pregnant in Heels” discusses her battle with secondary infertility. She is very open and honest with her story and perspective, hoping to empower other women who are going through secondary infertility to let go of shame and guilt. Rosie Pope ultimately conceived her second child, a daughter through in vitro fertilization.